I see the problem as we decide that we "philio" our fellow brothers and sisters and not "agape" them. It's like Peter and Christ's conversation when Christ asked Peter "Do you agape me?" and Peter responded "Yes, Lord, I philio you." We've got to be at the point where we agape each other as fellow believers since we are called to do this. We cannot mature fully in Christ without the agape. We will always be stunted as mature christians without agape. How can we fully experience the deep love of God without understanding the true meaning of agape?