I believe that human beings understanding of submission refers to the negative connotation the word implies in the eyes of the world system. The world thinks that submission is being subject to an imposition from someone. The world does not understand what obedience means in Christian life. Even if we say it does, the Jesus kind of obedience is not understood by the system. So long us a person is not saved, that nature to disobey wants to reign.Christianity is a life of obedience.Operating in the faith requires obedience. Obedience then becomes a life style of a born again Christian.
Submission does not take away the GOD given free will. If it was so, we may say that GOD gives and takes. So, submission is fulfilled with ones will only. IF a person sees something to act on and does not submit automatically, there should always be a reason.There is always a room to express ones will.
Submission can not be directed to someone who exalts himself/herself against the word of GOD. We should not submit to any person demanding our action contrary to the word of GOD.
However, I just heard arguments saying that the scriptural subscription of submission written to wives would not demand the same level of submission from present day wives. It is argued that since times have changed, women would not be expected to abandon their life aspirations in the interest of conforming to the wishes/demands of their husbands. I would particularly be happy to see responses to these arguments from brothers and sisters participating on this forum.