I believe the key word is balance and balance is found in truth and truth is Jesus Himself. Excessive guilt and self-hatred is indicative of erroneous thinking. Thus, it is helpful to always start at what you know to be true. God is Holy, man is sinful. God requires blood to be shed for the forgiveness of sin (Heb.9:22). Man, because of sin, could never surrender himself entirely to God, much less shed enough of his blood to satisfy this requirement. But, because God so loved the world, He sent His Son to become a man who could surrender Himself completely and make perfect forever those who are being made holy.(Jn. 3:16; Heb. 10:14). By faith, I must begin at this point and declare that I am a sinner in need of Jesus