Its all wrong because it causes sin, its a driver for sin. The word says he who findeth a wife findeth a good thing. The woman should be your wife before you take on sexual acts. The victims of the victimless crimes are those that are raped, molested, violated. This would also include the family, friends of those who are victims. They have to assist the others in getting back right if that happens at all, It is a never ending circle.