Q3. Sexuality and Boundaries

[blezed]

Are humans actually capable of controlling their sexual urges? If so, why are so many people seemingly out of control? Why is it important to control ourselves sexually within marriage? What happens when sexuality does not have any boundaries? What happens to marriages, to children, to our spirits, to our bodies?

Yes, we are capable of controlling our sexual urges. People are out of control because they are not rooted in the word of God. We have the tendency to allow the world dictate our values. Sex is all around us and if not rooted in the word we can easily becomes victims. God's word tells us that we are not to have sex outside of marriage. When sexuality does not have any boundaries, then we will have what we see today. Many are in and out of relationships, same sex partners, teenage pregnancies etc. Marriages are broken, children suffers being raised by one parent and our bodies are worn and in some cases racked with diseases.

[Trusting God]

Q3. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5) Are humans actually capable of controlling their sexual urges?

Yes, humans are capable of controlling their sexual urges. We have to learn how to discipline ourselves from those things that causes us to sin or harm us spiritually, mentally, or physically. When we depend and have faith in God, it is He who can give us the power to control sexual urges.

If so, why are so many people seemingly out of control?

People are seemingly out of control, because they are seeking to please self by fulfilling their passions. They are not seeking to please God or others. They are fulfilling their passions to find satisfaction.

Why is it important to control ourselves sexually within marriage?

It is important to control ourselves sexually within marriage, because we are one flesh. We do not want anything to separate us, like sexual sin. It will always be between us, even though, we reconcile.

Believers are married to Christ. When we sin, it separates and breaks our union with Christ. It does not take away our salvation, but it breaks our union with God and grieve the Holy Spirit of God.

What happens when sexuality does not have any boundaries?

We are seeing the results today of sexuality that does not have any boundaries. People are doing what is right in their own eyes. We are experiencing the events of Sodom and Gomorrah, and can understand God’s wrath on them. God does not condone sin.

What happens to marriages, to children, to our spirits, to our bodies?

When we incapable of controlling our sexually within the marriage union, it will affect our marriages, children, bodies, and our spirits. We are no longer clean or holy, but become unclean and unholy before God.

The cost is high when we fall to the **** of sexual sins. Sexual immorality causes divorce, broken homes, broken relationships, and separation from God. All are affected.

Below are a few examples of the consequences of sexual sins and their results:

• David, Bathsheba, and Uriah – 2 Samuel 11
  
• Sodom & Gomorrah (Jude 6-7, Genesis 18:16-33, Genesis 19:1-29, Ezekiel 16:48-50)
  
• Abraham, Sarah, & Hagar (Genesis 16:1-16, Genesis 21:8-21)
  
• Rueben and his father’s concubine (Genesis 35:22; Genesis 49:3-4; 1 Chronicles 5:1)
  

[Old Jerry]

I think that humans are actually capable of controlling their sexual urges. So many people are seemingly out of control because they choose not to.

 

It is important to control ourselves sexually within marriage because we are to show that person that they are the only one that we love that way. When sexuality does not have any boundaries as we have in the United States today, then we have all kinds of immoral activities going on.

 

Our marriage, children, spirits and our bodies are all destroyed by such acts.

 

 

[Joeraja]

Are humans actually capable of controlling their sexual urges? If so, why are so many people seemingly out of control?

Jesus Christ has paid in full for our sins by dying on the Cross so as to make us holy. He has given us the power(the Holy Spirit) to overcome sin and to lead holy lives. If we believe in Him and have accepted Him as our Lord and and Saviour we will surely be able to control the sexual urges

People are seemingly out of control because they have not given their hearts to Jesus Christ and continue to live life according to their own understanding and might.

 

Why is it important to control ourselves sexually within marriage? What happens when sexuality does not have any boundaries?

It is important to control ourselves as the unholy world presents an environment of deceit and sexual immorality. If we have control we may exceed the boundaries and end up in adultery, fornication, sodomy etc

 

What happens to marriages, to children, to our spirits, to our bodies?

When we don't control ourselves sexually marriages break up, the children suffer as they will be separated from their parents, the Holy Spirit is grieved and will not be able to help us and our physical bodies may decay through depession, emotional stress and diseases

[van]

I believe humans are capable of controlling sexual urges through the Holy Spirit. Because our spirit is willing but out flesh is weak, we need Christ to control our lives totally in body, mind and soul. We need to control ourselves in marriage because we are then thinking only of the flesh and not the creator who created for a husband and wife. If sexuality didn't have any boundaries we will have many more single young mothers, more diseases, higher crime.

[davidjjj]

Lots of questions!!!!!

Just addressing one today. I believe we all have the ability to make choices but as Paul outlines in Romans 7 those choices are, even with godly intent, effected by the flesh. So in Paul's words "the thing I want to do -I don't do, and the things I don't want to do- I do! oh wretched man that I am who will save me..."

God warned Cain that he must master sin or else he would be mastered by sin...he spoke of sin in a way that it was a living entity with the desire to rule over people, this same picture comes to the fore in Rom 6, the great news is we as believers are told that sin's lordship has been broken for those who by faith have been united to Jesus! but Paul tells us that sin still can try and call for our alligiance...and that we must "reckon ourselves dead to sin but alive to God" and that we must choose to keep presenting our bodies (the whole us) to God for acts of righteousness.

Then in Romans 8 it speaks about the work of the Holy Spirit in a believers life, the Spirit, God's empowering presence , helps us and leads us and works within us supernaturally so that we can choose to live with sexual purity (and with purity in every area of our lives) . Of course we live in a fallen world and will never be perfect this side of eternity BUT we are being transformed and renewed, and being conformed to Christ's image...incrementally byt the power of the HOLY Spirit!!!

God promised long ago His wonderful work could change our hearts of stone...to hearts of flesh (ie help us move from being stubborn to obedient)

Ezekiel 36:26-27 NIV

[26] I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. [27] And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws.

[Onerivertrail]

 (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5) Are humans actually capable of controlling their sexual urges? If so, why are so many people seemingly out of control? Why is it important to control ourselves sexually within marriage? What happens when sexuality does not have any boundaries? What happens to marriages, to children, to our spirits, to our bodies?    

 

Yes we are capable of controlling our sexual urges, if we choose to do so. Many refuse the discipline of their flesh and want to fulfill the desires that are in their hearts that are not holy. They let their thoughts stimulate the body. In the boundaries of marriage real intimacy is found and its holiness. To entertain the thought and action of sexual immorality outside of marriage ruins the creation of a holy bonding between two people. Marriages, our children and spirits suffer unmeasureably when we forget fleshly discipline and holiness of our flesh. Our bodies loose its created purpose outside of the boundary of marriage. Our souls suffer and joy goes out of our countenance. We can no longer stand in the face of God without shame.     

[sunshine1962]

Humans can control their sexual urges if they choose to. These out of control people are that way, because they want to be out of control.

First of all, if we don't control ourselves sexually within our marriages, we sin by committing adultery. Secondly, we can bring all types of sexually transmitted diseases home. If we are not married, we still sin. When sexuality has no boundaries, sin takes over and we mess up God's "temples", marriages are broken, children hurt, our spirits are downtrodden, and our bodies damaged.

[WinstonY]

Q3. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5) Are humans actually capable of controlling their sexual urges?

 

Yes, that can be done but it takes discipline and desire.

 

 

If so, why are so many people seemingly out of control?

People give in to their emotions instead of listening to God.

 

Why is it important to control ourselves sexually within marriage?

Marriage is a trust and a covenant between the couple and also with God. To violate the marriage is t o break the covenant.

 

What happens when sexuality does not have any boundaries?

All hell breaks loose- we are now in leaGgue with Satan.

 

What happens to marriages, to children, to our spirits, to our bodies?

 

They are all hurt and possibly destroyed.

[JoanG]

I believe that people are very much able to control their sexual urges. They have to want to do this. They have to have a reason in their hearts to do this. People seem so out of control at times because their hearts are not sure. They have no reason within them to act any differently. When sexuality does not have boundaries, people will act lawlessly. Many will be hurt. There will be no stopping the abuse. No body will be safe from the pain. Nothing will have meaning. The world will be soulless. And man will destroy all with disease.

[lighthouse2014]

Q3. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5) Are humans actually capable of controlling their sexual urges? If so, why are so many people seemingly out of control? Why is it important to control ourselves sexually within marriage? What happens when sexuality does not have any boundaries? What happens to marriages, to children, to our spirits, to our bodies?

Controlling one's sexual desires is probably one of the most difficult fleshly desires to control. However, with help of the Holy Spirit it can be possible.

Even though it can be possible to control one's sexual desires, it is difficult. It becomes an animal instinct to fulfill one's own selfish desires.

If we do not control our sexual desires in marriage we will cause a rift in the marriage, which will cause pain, mental anguish and most likely divorce. Plus, what God has bound by our covenant between him and our spouse was to be a covenant till death.

Because of immorality in the marriage, resulting in most cases divorce, it also destroys the children's moral guide that parents should provide. Children no longer have the love and respect of parents and vice-versa. Our own spirits have become bound by the conviction of sin, our faith languishes and relationship to God fades. We may even become ashamed before our family and friends. Our bodies could contract diseases which could affect us for the rest of our lives.      

[Reuben]

Q3. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5) Are humans actually capable of controlling their sexual urges? If so, why are so many people seemingly out of control? Why is it important to control ourselves sexually within marriage? What happens when sexuality does not have any boundaries? What happens to marriages, to children, to our spirits, to our bodies?

 Yes they are able to control their desires, and it is a conflict between the spirit and the flesh that we are in control of. Paul mentioned this battle in Romans 7 where the struggle between the thing that you don't want to do, you do, and the thing you want to to you do not do! We are human and if we are carnal in our thinking that is what will control our decisions, but if we keep the relationship real and close with the Spirit we can choose through His power within to do what pleases God.

So many are out of control because they remove themselves from any form of accountability and think that it is all about pleasing the self, no strings attached. This is also what happens when a world removing themselves from God will fall in the pit of immorality and think nothing of it. 

Marriage is a sacred bond and covenant between man and wife and to God. You honour somebody by keeping that covenant. By dishonouring it you are breaking the covenant, and you are causing a breakdown in relationship between you, your spouse and God.

When you have no boundaries you are falling into darkness further and further and removing yourself from God and the peace and loving relationship you can experience when doing what is pleasing to God rather than only what pleases your desires.

Marriages suffer a breakdown in love and trust , it affects the children with severe mental trauma seeing the ones they look up to hurting each other like this. It will also cause the spirit to feel empty , lost and hurt, even resenting, and this will require healing through repentance, and forgiveness and grace from our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

[Jonathan Edwards]

Yes!  It's God's will that men and women live in self control.   This is a common teaching in the Judeo-Christian religions including Hinduism.   Strict Hindu teachings are explicit in regards to sexual ethics;  Chasity is upheld by many of ancient Hindu sages, including Buddhists.   But they are not aware of the Holy Spirit who enables us to live in holiness all day long.   We don't resort to yoga to be chaste; we rely on God's grace alone to live holy.

Rebellion against God and the natural law.  Many people don't have understanding how intrinsic disordered acts grieve God and are beneath one's dignity.

Marriage is holy.   Secret sins will ruin the spiritual lives of Christains.   What a tragedy; many Christain couples have tolerated some rather unorthodox things in their marriages.    Due to pseudo theological reasonings and modern psychology; people have allowed the Enemy to ruin their marriage covenants.   

Without boundaries in accordance with the Holy Bible, people allow ungodly behaviours and thoughts that defile their characters and physical bodies.   Many cases are full of details of the snares of sins; via the internet, books and bad friends, Christians backslide, they lose their focus.   Daily altar and Bible study are neglected.

 

[Krissi]

Humans should be capable of controlling all sinful urges, but are not. This is because our sin nature, redeemed though it is, is never fully conquered until we die. As Christians, we have the Holy Spirit within us which, for most of us, is more than sufficient to keep our conscience active. Some Christians, however, are tugged by the temptation of **** or by having constant affairs, claiming that they were unable to control those urges. The standard we should reach is absolute purity in thought as well as deed. That's a high standard!

People become out of control, even Christians, because we live in a loose society that actually applauds and rewards sexual licentiousness. Many people care about what other people think more than what God thinks -- they are the most vulnerable to sexual temptation. Without society enforcing the idea that sex should remain within the boundaries of marriage, there's nothing to push again, no boundary to try to leap. This may sound counter intuitive, but boundaries exist to be broken in the world. Without boundaries or a sense of right and wrong, people  do anything, imagining a consequence-free life.

I do not think it is the role of the state to enforce monogamy and sexual purity, but the older divorce laws which recognized adultery as a valid reason for divorce seem more socially beneficial than the no-fault divorce laws of today. It doesn't matter, though. At this point, sexual licentiousness is the norm, and the acceptance of sexually deviant behavior required by the state. Morality has been upended.